I am quite amazed at how accepted our little family has been. I know it won't always be easy, but I'd love to share some experiences we've had where people haven't really even "batted an eyelash" and have accepted our two mom and a little man family.
*We first have to start with our own families - it is so nice that both my and MJ's families accept both us and Drew. He is a lucky little guy to have so much love from both sides of his family.
*Our work family.... we work in a school that is incredibly accepting. We really have an amazing staff and it is great to know we have support from everyone there. From our principal absolutely giddy with happiness when we told her we were expecting, to the HUGE baby shower that they threw for us, we couldn't be more thankful for a wonderful work family. People have told me that they are sad that I am back to work because now I don't bring Drew in to visit anymore!
*Did he get that from your side? One of my favorite stories comes from work as well - one of the second grade teachers asked MJ if Drew's red hair was from her side of the family and then realized what a funny question that was. However, to us, it shows that people see both of us equally as his Moms.
*We were at a restaurant a few weeks ago and the lady in the next table was oohing and aahing over Drew. When MJ took him to change him, she asked me if MJ was my mother and I replied, "NO." She then said, "your mother in law?" I clarified and said, "No, she's my partner.'' The woman took a quick moment to digest what I said and told me that he was clearly a well loved boy and continued asking about him. When she got up to leave, she made a point to come over and say hi to Drew - she wasn't phased at all.
*When Drew was first born, we went to a jewelry store to get new charms for our Pan.d0ra bracelets. One of the jewelers came out, and asked if he was ours. We said yes, and the jeweler told us that he was one lucky little boy.
I could go on an on about our wonderful experiences, but Little Man is waking up! It is just so nice to have your family validated by others and to realize that no matter how you go about making your family - you just need love and each other.
I'll leave you with a pic of the Little Man!
3 comments:
isn't it great when others see you family for the love it represents rather than the sex of the people in it. what a darling little man you have there!
Hi! I've been a "silent" follower on your blog for sometime now. I just wanted to say that I love this post! I love knowing there are people who are out there who accept our families. My wife, son, and I have been very lucky so far in that area - I hope it just keeps growing all around :)
My wife and I have also been silent followers of this blog, and check in from time to time to see how you are doing. We have been TTC for over a year now without success as of yet, but we are hopeful this is the year we will add a child to our home. It's been such a relief to have our marriage accepted by our family, friends and coworkers, but we still worry about how our "unconventional" family would be viewed in the world. It's wonderful to hear someone share their positive experiences and reassure us that love is what matters most.
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